If there is one thing I’ve learned over these last few years about myself, it’s that I’m not real great at continuing to build relationships. Building and growing relationships takes work. One of the most important relationships is that of you and your children. If you can’t teach your kids how to grow and build relationships, how do you expect them to do that as an adult?
Here are some ways that you can start to grow and build your relationship with your children. Some cost some money and others are completely free and only take time.
1. Impromptu Dance Party
This one is number one because it is my favorite thing to do with my family. I absolutely love to dance, it makes me happy, it takes away all of the stress and worries and I’ve been doing it since I was a little girl.
After having kids, I thought that dancing and having fun was very un-mom like. I became way too serious and stopped having fun. When I put music on it reminds me to let go and have fun and this is the most important thing for my children to see. If you’re having fun, they will have fun.
Next time you’re cleaning, pop on some music and let the beat take you over. Make sure your kids join in too!
2. Arts & Crafts Projects
I’m going to be completely honest, number 2 and number 3 are my least favorite on the list but can be very beneficial. Doing arts and crafts with your kids can help spark imagination, creativity, and self-expression. It is one of the easiest ways for children to communicate and express themselves.
If you aren’t artsy like myself, pinterest has made it easy for you! I’ve started a board specifically for great arts and crafts projects that I want to try with my kids! You can find that board here! https://www.pinterest.com/sara10nicole/hands-on-activites-for-kids/
3. Cooking & Baking
This is another great way to expand your child’s mind. Not only are you teaching them something that might be beneficial for you but it is also beneficial for them, helping them learn something that will make them more independent.
Here is a great way to start! Check out this mom and me cookbook https://amzn.to/2Tq7X6h
4. Family Game Night
This is always a great time for everyone involved. Who doesn’t like playing some classic games (Monopoly, Clue, Guess Who just to name a few of our favorites).
I tend to get a little bit competitive, it’s just my nature, but once the kids caught on we were all enjoying our time together and the kids started to pick up on my sneaky (no cheating) techniques. 🙂
5. Read, Read, Read
Reading is one way that you can go on an adventure together and never leave the comfort of your home! I loved reading as a child and I hope that my kids continue to love to read as well.
Not only is reading enjoyable but it also helps boost brain power, teaches them a love of learning, and gives them a slight advantage in the classroom. Find some of your favorite books, cuddle up in the chair with them and read away!
6. Parent & Me Activities
These little books can cost some money but if you’re having a hard time connecting with one of your kids, this book has activities lined up for you and your child to do. It does all of the hard work for you, you just have to enjoy the time you’ve set up for yourself and your child.
Here is the link to the book I chose for my husband and our daughter and then I bought the mom and me one for us! https://amzn.to/2tZNZzZ
7. Stop & Play
Just enjoy playing with them. Put to use all those toys you’ve bought for them over the years. Watch them as they engage with you during your play. You will get a kick out of hearing your child’s conversation.
This is also another great way to connect with little ones who may not have developed their speech fully yet. Play is another way that all children can communicate through. Get out their favorites and sit down and enjoy some uninterrupted play time!
8. Parent & Child Date Day
Do whatever feels right. You can have the day planned or go with the flow. You can do a “mom says yes day”. You can surprise your child or have your child surprise you! There can be a limit or no limit at all, rules or no rules. It’s totally up to you what this day looks like! My oldest is a girly girl so her day would look like this:
Wake up and eat her favorites: donuts, cinnamon toast crunch or cinnamon rolls.
Get dressed up in “fancy” clothes and go shopping for a new toy, jewelry, or clothes.
Get a pedicure or just get her nails painted.
Have lunch at their favorite spot, Noodles & Company.
and then spend the evening playing games, watching a movie, and just talking to each other.
Obviously, like I said, you can do whatever your heart desires, it can be as elaborate or simple as it needs to be. Just have fun with it and make it happen occasionally. Maybe even take some time to do some fun Acts of Kindness, here is my calendar that I created for the kids at school! http://itscoolmom.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/Acts-of-Kindness-Calendar.docx
9. Movie Night
Pop the popcorn, grab the comfy blankets, turn the lights low and put on your favorite family movie.
This is perfect for a Friday night or when the weather doesn’t want to corporate. It’s my favorite thing to do when you just need some time to relax and just enjoy being close.
The movie options are endless, you can watch the new ones with them or share some of your favorites. Whatever you choose your kids will just appreciate the time being spent.
10. Take Walks
Be with nature together. There is nothing better for a quick recharge then being with the trees. The feeling is peaceful and calm and is exactly what a busy parent needs in order to connect with their child. Walks are also a great way to get some exercise in which can also help boost endorphins and give everyone a little charge of positivity.
Choose your favorite path, a great hiking trail or be adventurous and try something you haven’t done yet! As long as your outside enjoying the fresh air with each other, what you choose doesn’t really matter!
Obviously the sky is the limit with ideas for family fun. If you have found some that should definitely be on this list let me hear about them! Add them in the comments below! I really look forward to hearing your thoughts and building a community so reach out and tell me hi and share some info about yourself. Until then, keep it cool mom! 🙂